Not all converts are comfortable talking about it. Some prefer it not be known or brought up in conversation. I remember how, in the early years of my Jewish life, it was uncomfortable for me each time somebody would look at me slightly askance and say things like “Wow, there are Jews in Norway?” or “So…what was your maiden name…?” trying to place me in their understanding of who I am, where I came from and how I got here. As a Jewess.
Now I don’t care anymore. I confidently call myself a new-Jew, a Jew by choice, or a convert. Although I will say I have not been too fond of the Hebrew word for convert: ger. Which also means stranger. But I know that this word can be traced in the Torah to be understood as something valuable and important in Jewish history and civilization. Something ethically critical, even.
Me not caring anymore and feeling comfortable discussing my Jewish journey is surely a result of my maturing into my identity; the chosen one, the one I was born into, and the one I am becoming by each passing day. Because let’s face it, we are becoming; we are constantly in the process.
Somehow, I have experienced many fewer conversations relating to this daunting odyssey with fellow converts than with curious or fascinated “outsiders” (ha! WE are the insiders in this one!), but when I do chat with my new-Jew cohorts, even if by now some of us may be old-ish Jews, the exchange feels heart-warmingly genuine and intimate. The truth is, we do share something unique, and our stories matter.
A new group is forming at my local JCCÂ carrying the same name as this blog. We will meet one Tuesday evening a month, starting October 13th. If you are a convert and live in the Greater Hartford area, I hope to see you. If you live elsewhere we could Skype you in, or you might contribute/become part of the conversation by sharing your story right here, on this co-operative blog (just click on FOLLOW, and you will receive an email with an invitation to become a contributor). You can also join Our Facebook Group, a private space for kvelling, complaining, celebrating, inquiring and sharing.
I look forward to meeting you in person, on Facebook or on our blog!
Shabbat shalom!
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